What Is the Dating Scene Like on the Water ?

[off-the-grid]

Originally Posted by zeehag

is NOT a joke--many felames cannot tolerate the idea of a single female near their spouses--why i donot know--taken men donot appeal to most of us..we have standards also-- just is weird that so many felames are that way--ruins the fun and socializing aspect of cruising......

(yes, i misspelled female appropriately--is lame to act in such manner--exhibits insecurity in a grand scale, therefore felame suits them well.....).

So much for cruisers begin SO welcoming!

[Lurker Beast]

Originally Posted by zeehag

....many felames cannot tolerate the idea of a single female near their spouses....

Dang, I'm a pariah already and I didn't DO anything yet! Not even interested in men. Geeze.

[barnakiel]

On the water,I think you have to do with what there is, unless you go for dating the local fauna.

Just next to the water, (marinas) it is like elsewhere.

Among cruisers, I think 99 lonesome males will chase the 1 cruising female who is not interested in them at all.

If you are after dating, stay in the big city, get a regular job and pretend you are interested in setting up a family.

b.

[idpnd]

Originally Posted by barnakiel

If you are after dating, stay in the big city, get a regular job and pretend you are interested in setting up a family.

hehe! quite..

[Mule]

Originally Posted by barnakiel

If you are after dating, stay in the big city, get a regular job and pretend you are interested in setting up a family.

b.

I really do not think that dog will hunt always. Hell I am 63....family! You gotta be kidding.

[Inkwell]

During the "dating period", all women love the idea of sailing, it is only after you have taken them out that the the truth comes out. It is rare to find to someone who really enjoys spending the nigh at anchor and all day under sail.

[zeehag]

Originally Posted by Mule

I really do not think that dog will hunt always. Hell I am 63....family! You gotta be kidding.

concur with above lol.....
certainly not with the african queen comment!!!.....havent met any of those yet--lol---

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Originally Posted by zeehag
is NOT a joke--many felames cannot tolerate the idea of a single female near their spouses--why i donot know--taken men donot appeal to most of us..we have standards also-- just is weird that so many felames are that way--ruins the fun and socializing aspect of cruising......

(yes, i misspelled female appropriately--is lame to act in such manner--exhibits insecurity in a grand scale, therefore felame suits them well.....).

So much for cruisers begin SO welcoming!
lol so's are mkost welcome--as long as they have theirs woith them it seems--i dont mind meeting everyone--attached or otherwise--am not seeking a family!! i am seeking a SAILING PARTNER.... LOL..... not necessarily a SO kinda partner lol....
as long as he can keep a decent watch and sail in th eright direction , seems i am not tooo picky..lol
mukle--i am similar age group as you--LOL--family--as the grinch says about xmas.......!!!!

[flysci]

Originally Posted by Inkwell

During the "dating period", all women love the idea of sailing, it is only after you have taken them out that the the truth comes out. It is rare to find to someone who really enjoys spending the nigh at anchor and all day under sail.

Exactly! The IDEA of sailing is all romance - that easy day sail to a secluded cove, drinks in the cockpit, sex under the stars.

This is dating - fun!

The reality is life in a very small space, with few luxuries, bouncing or at 25°, long days working under sail, etc etc.

So few women will agree to become the admiral. Better to find someone who has already chosen the cruising life when looking for a soul mate.

Or maybe the "right" soul mate will make you realize that life ashore can be great too. Our dreams change as we change!

But regardless I would never recommend lies, even implied rather than bald-faced, to "get" the girl (i.e. pretend you want a family!?!). That is doomed to failure from the beginning. Unless all you want is a hook-up; lies can work great for that. Doesn't make you an admirable person though.

Margo

[zeehag]

Originally Posted by flysci

Exactly! The IDEA of sailing is all romance - that easy day sail to a secluded cove, drinks in the cockpit, sex under the stars.

This is dating - fun!

The reality is life in a very small space, with few luxuries, bouncing or at 25°, long days working under sail, etc etc.

So few women will agree to become the admiral. Better to find someone who has already chosen the cruising life when looking for a soul mate.

Or maybe the "right" soul mate will make you realize that life ashore can be great too. Our dreams change as we change!

But regardless I would never recommend lies, even implied rather than bald-faced, to "get" the girl (i.e. pretend you want a family!?!). That is doomed to failure from the beginning. Unless all you want is a hook-up; lies can work great for that. Doesn't make you an admirable person though.

Margo

AMEN!!!!! lies make ye a pariah....a significant other makes ye a married person.....lol

[David_Old_Jersey]

Originally Posted by barnakiel

On the water,I think you have to do with what there is, unless you go for dating the local fauna.

I would've thought if sailing to foreign shores, then "integrating" with da local fauna would be one of the attractions / challenges

Or maybe enroute one might bump into a shoal of Mermaids if you carefully follow their migration route at the right time of year - who knows where they may lead you? . Mermaids maybe not so good on deck, but save a few haulouts

[Mule]

"mukle--i am similar age group as you--LOL--family--as the grinch says about xmas.......!!!! "

Too bad you be in San Diego. I am in Fl with one foot in Fort Worth. I did live aboard in SD in my early 20's. A haze gray boat called the USS Bradley. We went under the bridge, and tied up at the 28th and 32nd Nav Sta. I loved it there, would have stayed in but there were too many reasons not to, thank God I did not. Being a telephone man worked out much better.

I can stand a watch, do what I am told, have no problem not being Captain, less responsibility, but also can make a decision and be the Capt. I like the chain of command, takes away uncertainty as to what to do. If Captain then you decide and give the command, and if 1st mate, you do it and if you disagree, you still do it and talk about it later. I am comfortable either way. My problem is when it comes to sails, Mule translates into latin as "bad sailor"

[off-the-grid]

Originally Posted by David_Old_Jersey

I would've thought if sailing to foreign shores, then "integrating" with da local fauna would be one of the attractions / challenges

Well...uh...now that you mention it. Actually I was thinking more along the lines of staying put in one place for a while and dating all the tourist fauna. Kinda like this guy...just with bigger shorts.



Although I could see that getting old after a while.

[Ex-Calif]

Originally Posted by zeehag

i donot race no rdo i enjoy the oxymoronic adventure of sailboat racing. i like to cruise under sail

Originally Posted by grunzster

You know, zeehag does have a very good point.

You may meet lots of people by joining a club, but I bought a boat to live on it, cruise, travel, sight see, jump off the back to go swimming, scuba dive, put around in a dingy, grill...with a few drinks of course, and probably even do some fishing. I have ZERO interest in racing and question weather I really would have all that much in common with people in a sailing or yacht club.

Are cruisers and racers really all that like minded?

Sorry to confuse. My point was not about racing. It was about finding people interested in boats in the first place. Twlilight and beercan racing in many ways is not racing. It's 1/2 racing and 1/2 social.

You can tell pretty quickly the people who are just into social vs. people who are into boats.

I have people who ping me to go sailing. I get them on board, they have a good time, they want to come back. They get into it a little bit and then invariably they will cancel less than 24 hours before a sail and become unreliable. Soccer game, dinner commitments etc. They just aren't into boats enough. We are not out there cruising but we sail at least 1 day a week and most often 2 days a week. We do weekend overnights etc. etc.

There are a solid core of people who hound me every week and have never missed a sail in 2 years. These are the keepers.

[boatman61]

Well.... lets put it this way... I've met more women through being on the water than I've ever met on the net.... but then I'm a visual person...
I need to see their eyes. the body language, their voice and the sound of their laughter... on the net I feel like a naughty little boy who hides dirty mags under his mattress... its just to impersonal and phony... but then beating my meat at a keyboard is definitely NOT my thing... Low Sex Drive..??
A dinghy pulling into the beach and being flipped over to scrub the bottom.... or even to just lay on the beach always attracts attention and curiosity... you've just gotta go with the flow... being somewhere new does not make you less attractive than back home... your accent, your dress sense all serve as ice breakers and curiosity will always win through... then its up to you... they may not be quite to your taste but one of their friends might just be.
I've no complaints about dating on the water...
Keeping ems another thing... but hey.. nothing is forever.. no matter how much we try to kid ourselves. Its all about the quality while you've got it...
and beautiful memories that make you smile....