Single Sailors Seeking Soul Mate Group

[flysci]

Originally Posted by FxdGrMind

Please explain....

Maybe we have different definitions of nice? What did those women mean by calling you "nice"?

Let me see ... for me 'nice' means not being overly critical of what I say and do; no yeling; giving the benefit of the doubt when disagreements come up; not sweating the small stuff.

Of course in a mate, this niceness should be combined with a healthy libido, directed at me!

Margo

[FxdGrMind]

Ok... maybe they said, "you are too nice"....

Kind, thoughtful, willing to discuss (not argue, and yes you can be right), able to express feelings, and patient where needed yet willing to take action at a moments notice. And yes the libido had better be directed between the two involved... healthy one at that. It's like the icing on the cake... with out it... hmm cake is just cake... yea got's to have icing.

[flysci]

Originally Posted by FxdGrMind

... able to express feelings, ...

Hmmm, sometimes I think expressing feelings is overrated. I'd rather hear the facts about about all those things that color our feelings.

Originally Posted by FxdGrMind

... patient where needed yet willing to take action at a moments notice.

Oh yeah, that's so right on.

Originally Posted by FxdGrMind

It's like the icing on the cake... with out it... hmm cake is just cake... yea got's to have icing.

Mmmm! Three layers with icing between each and piled on top!

Margo

[Gadagirl]

@Auspicous
Again I'm sorry. I knew about Janet,I've read many nice things you've said about her. I actually thought you'd gotten married. Like I said I'm looking forward to meeting you both some day. *Perhaps on Anegada.*

@FxdgrMind
Daddy issues. Drama-queens, and co-dependency. You've escaped. Be grateful!

[FxdGrMind]

G-g (I like it!)

Well yea, I do count my lucky stars. Alas, it's still not nice, or easy.

My question still stands though, Why? the desire for the AH? What is the allure?
I can't understand it. No mater how much I try. I see it happen daily, hear about it often and then they tell me... gee you are such a nice guy, why aren't you shacked up with some hottie.... I'm like WTF????

Maybe I'm just not on the boat yet... hence she is waiting for me to find her in some long forgotten cove.

[FxdGrMind]

Three layers with icing between each and piled on top!
end quote.....

Ummmm.... maybe I shouldn't say anything.....

[SaltyMonkey]

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[FxdGrMind]

OMG "Some women like the idea that maybe "she " can fix him"


Dear DOG! Guy's want to "Fix" things... and women want to "Fix him"....


I GIVE UP!

[zeehag]

never fix what aint broken

[Ocean Girl]

I do not find bad boys attractive (period). I only see work when I see a bad boy, I work enough as it is. Good guys are attractive and being kind is very sexy (period). My 2 cents.

Also, (more 2cents) there are "nice" guys that are not my soul mate, that isn't the "nice" fault, it is just life. Don't peg your "niceness" for your lack of connecting with your mate, you'd be all wrong.

Cheers,
Erika

[Ocean Girl]

Originally Posted by zeehag

silliness reveals more about someone i think sometimes than does seriosity.

No truer words spoken.

[SaltyMonkey]

Originally Posted by Ocean Girl

I do not find bad boys attractive (period). I only see work when I see a bad boy, I work enough as it is.

But...is it bright work or engine overhaul?

[Feral Cement]

Sometimes, I scoop a little icing out of the can with my fingers and lick it off.

[zeehag]

Originally Posted by Feral Cement

Sometimes, I scoop a little icing out of the can with my fingers and lick it off.

dang --the cake is lucky to get half can of frosting--i like making my own--yummmm--then there is more than just a can to lick and no sharp edges..

[SaltyMonkey]

I wont tell you where imagination is carrying me